We have written down answers to the questions we often receive. If you do not find what you are looking for here, write to us - we will be happy to answer you.
Will the masseur be a man?
Yes. In the gay/bi and open-minded variant, you are guided by an experienced tantric masseur – a man who is open, sensitive, and present. His touch arises from authenticity, not from a role. He creates a space where you can be yourself – safe, without pressure, and with trust.
How will I know if the masseur is “the right one”?
You might feel it right away – in his presence, in the calmness of his voice, in the softness of his breath, in the way he perceives you. The masseur does not try to convince you or win you over. He is simply present. Each of our masseurs has their own space on the website – you’ll find their story, specialization, photos, and often a video or interview that helps you sense their energy. Take your time. Look. Feel. Tune in. And if during the massage you feel any dissonance, you can say it at any time. You will be heard – without judgment, with respect.
Is a conversation part of the massage?
Yes. Every session includes time before and after the massage – about 30 minutes extra, not counted in the duration. The conversation helps with tuning in, sharing intentions, explaining the process, and allowing time for closure. This time is included in the massage price and is dedicated entirely to you – without rush, without a clock.
Do you work only with energy, or also with muscles?
Our massages are holistic – combining work with muscles, tension, breath, and the body’s energetic field. It’s not just gentle stroking – it’s a complete ritual that can release the body both physically and energetically.
Can I say what kind of touch suits me?
Yes. Always. You can share whether you prefer a gentler or deeper touch, more time to relax, or if there’s a specific area you’d like to skip. The masseur listens to you and adjusts accordingly. Your boundaries are important.
Will the masseur be naked during the massage?
The masseur accompanies you through the ritual with respect and care. The massage begins in a sarong – a light ritual garment. If trust naturally develops between you, and the massage moves in that direction, the masseur may gradually loosen or remove the sarong. Nudity, however, is never the goal – only a natural part of mutual attunement if it feels right. Always: what is natural for both of you in the moment – that is what’s right.
What if I get an erection during the massage?
That is completely natural. Tantric massage works with the body and energy – and that can flow as arousal. An erection is not a goal nor a problem. The masseur perceives it with respect, without expectation or shame. Your body is welcome in all its expressions.
What if I don’t have an erection – or don’t want one?
That’s not a problem either. Arousal is not a measure of correctness. Deep calm, gentle vibration, or open breath are also expressions of life energy. Tantric massage is not about performance – it’s a journey toward yourself, and every body responds in its own way.
How does tantra view orgasm?
In tantra, orgasm is not a goal but a possible gift. We learn to feel pleasure throughout the whole body – without pressure or expectation. You may also experience what’s called an inner orgasm – a wave of ecstatic energy spreading through your body, without tension or ejaculation.
What if ejaculation happens?
That’s perfectly fine. If the body releases this way, the massage simply continues – with gentleness and care. There’s no need to apologize or feel uneasy. Everything that arises during the ritual is accepted with respect.
Is prostate massage part of the session?
Yes – if you wish. It’s a deeply healing and sensitive part of tantric massage, performed only when you feel safe and open. Always with gloves, lubrication, and full respect for your body.
What if I have health issues?
The massage will be adapted to your needs. Before the ritual, we always ask about your current condition – and if there’s anything important to mention (e.g. high blood pressure, pain, surgery), please tell us. Your comfort and safety are our priority.
I’m not sure about my orientation. Is it okay to come?
Yes. Many men come precisely to explore safely and without shame. Maybe you have a partner. Maybe you’ve never touched another man. Or maybe the idea simply attracts you – or you just feel that you’d like to experience it. Tantric massage gives you space. It’s not about labels, orientation, or defining who you are. It’s about touch, acceptance, and the freedom to be in your body as you are.
What if I realize I’m attracted to a man’s touch – and don’t know what to do with that?
That’s perfectly fine. The masseur stays with you in the present moment – without expectation or judgment. You might touch a part of yourself you’ve hidden for a long time – or one you simply didn’t know about. It doesn’t mean you have to define yourself. It only means you are alive. Sensitive. Open to experience.
What if I’m not sure I’d feel comfortable with an intimate massage from a man?
That’s completely okay. Your uncertainty is natural – there’s no need to overcome it right away. Maybe the idea of being cared for by another man attracts you, but you don’t know what it will be like. Maybe desire and hesitation mix within you – and that’s perfectly fine. In tantric massage, nothing is mandatory. There are no “musts” – only choices. If you prefer a gentle approach without intimate touch, you can choose the variant Touch of Innocence. It’s a deeply relaxing massage where the masseur works with your whole body, without direct touch of the lingam. The work includes energy, breath, and mindful touch, but always stays within safe boundaries that are not yet ready to be crossed. Your body can open in its own time. The masseur guides you with respect, listens to your rhythm, and never crosses a boundary that hasn’t been consciously opened. Your consent and safety are the foundation of every touch.
What might surprise you...
Is tantric massage suitable for older men?
Absolutely yes. Age is often a gateway to greater depth and openness. Many clients come at a time when they feel the need to slow down, reconnect with themselves, and give their body the care it deserves.
Can the massage help with potency issues?
Massage can be supportive – it releases tension, restores sensitivity, and renews contact with the body. Regular mindful touch can help foster a healthier relationship with one’s sexuality, greater stamina, and more calm in intimate moments. It’s not about technique – it’s about the journey.
Is the massage suitable during a personal crisis?
Yes. The massage can help you return to your body, to calm, to breath. In times of change, searching, or exhaustion, the touch of another man can bring strength and relief. Without words. Just presence and respect.
Can it help me mentally as well?
Very often. The body and psyche are connected. When the body releases tension, inner pressure, emotions, and confusion often ease too. Many men leave lighter – with calmer breath and often with a quiet smile.
What if I can’t stop my mind from racing?
That’s okay. You don’t need to turn it off – just be. The massage gradually leads you from thoughts into your body. Through breath, touch, and presence, the mind naturally settles. Not through force – but through acceptance.
I have a partner. Is it okay that I’m attracted to the idea of a massage from a man?
Yes. The desire for touch, for another kind of presence, for sensuality with a man – it doesn’t have to threaten your relationship or identity. Many men who love their partners experience deep, powerful moments through masculine touch. You don’t need to explain it – just feel it. Tantric massage doesn’t give answers but helps you ask deeper questions – and be more honest with yourself.
Is it possible to experience a four-hand massage led by a man and a woman?
Yes. If you’re drawn to the combination of feminine and masculine energy, you can choose a four-hand massage guided by one male and one female therapist. This format offers a deeply harmonious connection – the softness of the feminine and the grounding of the masculine – often felt as a deeply nourishing experience.
A four-hand massage brings not only an intensified physical sensation but also a renewed sense of acceptance and connection with yourself. The presence of two distinct energies in one ritual can make the experience especially enriching – for individuals as well as couples.
We recommend sharing your wishes and boundaries in advance so we can create an atmosphere perfectly tuned to what you need for relaxation, trust, and joy in touch.
How do TANMAYA massages differ from other tantric studios?
Our work is not only about touch. It’s a deep ritual – a meeting between two men, where professionalism, presence, and humanity intertwine.
Every TANMAYA masseur undergoes months of specialized training focused on working with the male body. We learn not only the techniques and rituals but also a sensitive approach to emotions, breath, sexual energy, and boundaries.
The training also includes modern therapeutic disciplines and touch techniques such as Lomi-Lomi, reflexology, Thai massage, aromatherapy, and hot stone therapy. Naturally, all our therapists hold certifications in classical massage and uphold strict hygiene and safety standards.
All this gives our massages depth – yet they remain simple, quiet, and grounded in the essence of one conscious masculine touch. A touch that holds you. And respects you.
What's on your mind… and it's okay
I’m afraid the massage might arouse me more than I expect…
That’s completely fine. The massage works with all layers of the body, including erotic energy. Arousal is welcome, but it’s not the goal. There’s no need to suppress or hide it – what matters most is your sense of safety. The masseur welcomes you fully in your experience.
Am I allowed to touch the masseur?
No – during the tantric massage you are in the receiving role. The masseur touches you, while you simply feel. If you feel a need for closeness or connection, you can express it – sometimes holding hands or a brief embrace can fulfill that need, if it feels natural for both of you.
What if I cry or get emotional?
That’s very common – and beautiful. Touch often releases deeper layers of emotion we’ve held back for a long time. Tears are welcome. The masseur holds space for you – through quiet presence and acceptance, without judgment.
What if I have a personal or sexual wish?
You can name it – openly, without fear. The masseur receives you with respect and openness. Together you’ll explore what is possible within tantric massage, and what goes beyond its boundaries. Boundaries are important – their clarity creates a safe space where you can explore what lives within you and what wants to be felt.
What if I have erectile dysfunction?
That’s completely fine. The massage is not about performance. Your state is perfect as it is. Touch between men can awaken the body on a deeper level – even without an erection. The masseur perceives you as a whole, with respect for what you are experiencing.
What if premature ejaculation happens?
Nothing is wrong. The body responds naturally – tantra does not judge. If ejaculation occurs, the massage continues calmly and gently. The energy resettles, the experience deepens. There’s no need to control anything – just to be.
What if I don’t feel arousal or sensitivity?
That’s perfectly okay. The body often carries layers of stress, tension, guilt, or old wounds. Tantric massage can help release these layers, restore sensitivity, and bring arousal even where it hasn’t been felt for a long time. Sometimes it takes time – and that’s why time is given.
What if I feel ashamed or afraid of failure?
That’s human. Touch between two men can feel vulnerable – and at the same time deeply healing. The masseur perceives you without judgment. Not as someone who must “endure,” but as a human being who deserves gentleness, respect, and genuine connection. Tantra is not a test – it’s acceptance.
Is the masseur in the bath with me?
Yes – the ritual “In the Arms of Water” takes place in an intimate atmosphere where nudity is a natural part of it. During the bath, you’re without clothes, immersed in warm water with roses, sea salt, and gentle music. The masseur is with you in the water – either wearing a sarong, underwear, or naked, always in harmony with mutual trust and connection. His touch, breath, and presence support you, gently guiding you in the rhythm of the water. The whole ritual unfolds slowly, consciously, and with emphasis on safety. Nudity here is not an erotic invitation – but a space where you can connect more deeply with your body and trust. If you have any questions or insecurities, you can share them anytime. The masseur listens with understanding.
Is tantric massage a sexual service?
No. Tantric massage is not a sexual service and never includes intercourse or role exchange. It is deeply intimate yet clearly guided – a ritual between two men, where the masseur works with conscious touch, breath, and energy – without expectation, with truthfulness to what is.
The aim is not sexual release, but the awakening of life energy, relaxation of the body, and acceptance of yourself in your full sensitivity, desire, and vulnerability. Touch can be sensual, sometimes even arousing – but it never crosses the boundaries that make tantric massage a safe space for real experience. The masseur helps you build a relationship with your body, with arousal and sensitivity – without shame, without pressure, without expectation.
Prostate - the male G-spot without taboos
What is the prostate?
The prostate, often called the “male G-spot,” is a small gland located inside the pelvis, best accessible through the anal opening. It is about the size of a chestnut and plays an important role in the male body – during ejaculation it produces fluid that nourishes sperm. Conscious stimulation of the prostate can bring not only intense pleasure but also deep relaxation, emotional connection, and a new level of intimacy with one’s own body.
Why is prostate massage important?
Prostate massage helps release tension in the pelvis, activate energy in the body, and open new dimensions of experience. Regular stimulation can have positive effects on health – from preventing prostate issues to relieving mental stress. It enables a deeper connection with yourself, greater sensitivity, and body awareness even beyond the genital area. In a safe space between two men, this experience can become even more profound.
How does a prostate massage take place?
Prostate massage is part of the overall tantric massage ritual and takes place only when your body is relaxed and trust with the masseur is established. The masseur first works on the outer body – breath, pelvis, buttocks, and perineum. Only after you are ready may a conscious internal touch through the anal opening follow.
The massage is performed either on your back or on your stomach, in a slow and gentle rhythm, always with respect, consent, and attention to safety. The masseur uses a soft glove and high-quality lubricant.
Do I need to prepare?
No. Just come with openness and curiosity. You can share your wishes, fears, or boundaries in advance. Everything is received – without shame or judgment.
Will I enjoy a prostate massage?
Every body responds differently. Some men feel intense arousal, others deep relaxation. Some experience something entirely new. There’s no need to expect anything – just trust your own pace. No pressure, no need to “feel something.” Letting go of expectations often brings the deepest experiences.
Touch between men: the most common questions of gay couples
Will a couple’s tantric massage improve our sex life?
A couple’s tantric massage always has a deep and strengthening impact on intimacy. It guides you to a new experience of your body, touch, and mutual awareness. Two experienced masseurs lead you through the ritual so you can completely relax, feel your own body and your partner, and surrender to the present moment with trust. You’ll experience caring touch, awareness, and an open space for your emotions.
The massage often opens a new level of communication and sensuality. If the experience resonates with you, we recommend continuing with an individual tantric massage course – where you can explore and deepen specific themes in your relationship.
Is sex part of tantric massage?
No. Tantric massage is not a sexual service. During the ritual, there is no sexual contact between client and masseur. It’s not an exchange, but a gift – safe, loving, and respectful.
The purpose of tantric massage is to experience your body deeply, awaken your senses, and allow your life energy to flow freely. Two experienced masseurs create a space where you can truly relax – without expectations, pressure, or the need to “give back.”
The power of the ritual lies in discovering new layers of perception, letting go of old patterns, and finding new inspiration for both body and soul. It’s an experience that can deepen your sensitivity – and perhaps bring a new quality of intimacy to your relationship.
Can we share our couple’s intimacy during the massage?
Yes, if that’s what you wish. You can tune in together before the massage, for example during a tantric bath. During the massage, both masseurs guide you so that you can stay connected – perhaps by holding hands, breathing together, or simply feeling each other’s presence. After the massage, there’s quiet time just for the two of you – to share what you’ve experienced.
Will we enjoy the massage more together or in separate rooms?
It depends on your inner needs. If you want to focus deeply on yourself without distractions, we recommend separate massages – each with one masseur, in private. You can then meet afterwards, perhaps during a shared bath. But if you’re drawn to being together – side by side, sharing the same space – the couple’s ritual (two clients, two masseurs, one room) is a beautiful choice. It strengthens closeness and harmony between you.
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