Tantric Counseling

Tantra is an ancient philosophical path as well as a practical art of a fulfilled life. It offers a new, in the Western world still uncommon, perspective on relationships, sexuality, and partnership. Many relationships are influenced by stereotypes we carry from our families or society, often conditioned by rigid rules. Tantra brings an approach close to human nature – and perhaps that is why so many people are finding their way back to it today.

Our tantric counseling is intended for everyone who is seeking gentle and open inspiration for personal and partner relationships. Questions related to sexuality and physicality are welcome. Your questions are answered by therapist and tantric massage instructor Bc. Michaela Lynnette Torstenová.

I would like to ask what can be recommended to couples where one partner has difficulties with touch and cuddling (does not really enjoy it), and the couple would like to work on this. Can tantra help?

In every relationship, it is important to seek balance. When one partner longs for cuddling and the other tends to avoid touch, it can be frustrating for both. Touch is a natural language of closeness, and for many people it is an essential part of emotional and physical connection.

Tantric massage can offer a space where touch is perceived as a gift – without pressure, expectations, or evaluation. During a shared or individual course, partners learn to perceive boundaries, needs, and subtle signals of the other. Gradually, they can find a form of closeness that feels pleasant and safe for both.

My partner and I recently tried anal sex. My partner was enthusiastic, but for me the whole experience was unpleasant and painful. My partner is encouraging me to give it another chance, but I am afraid. What should we do?

In situations like this, it is important to trust your own feelings. If something is painful or unpleasant for you, it is absolutely okay to say “no” – without guilt. The body needs time, safety, and respect.

If this area still interests you, you can return to it very slowly and gently, ideally at a moment when you feel truly relaxed. Sensitive touch, massage, or breathwork can help. Tantric massage, which includes the so-called massage of a new dimension, can be a way to experience this area again pleasantly and without fear. It is important that your partner is patient and attuned to your pace.

I am 32 years old and have been married for 6 years. Recently, however, I have been longing for sex with another man. I have never been unfaithful to my husband. Should I find a lover?

Desire for another man does not necessarily mean that you want to leave your relationship. It may, however, signal that something important is missing – perhaps attention, touch, excitement, or the feeling of being desired.

Rather than looking for a quick solution, try to perceive this desire as an impulse to have a conversation with your partner. Perhaps you are not meeting each other in intimacy in the way you need. A shared tantric massage can be a safe space where you can meet again – differently, more deeply, and more naturally. It allows you to speak about wishes that may not have been expressed before. And that can be a new beginning.

I would like to ask how to best satisfy a woman and how to increase my partner’s desire for lovemaking.

Female arousal is closely connected with a sense of safety, acceptance, and kindness. If a woman feels comfortable in her body and knows that her partner truly perceives her, her desire awakens naturally.

Many women need more time to tune in – touches during the day, gentle gestures, listening, and interest without expectations can help. Every woman is different – some appreciate a tender approach, others welcome playfulness and dynamism in lovemaking.

Tantric massage is a beautiful way to learn how to perceive your partner, follow her reactions, and support her desire. You can give it to her as a gift, or experience it together. Conscious touch opens the path not only to satisfaction, but also to deeper closeness.

My sister suffers from a lack of self-confidence and is also very shy. Do you think tantric massage could help her in some way?

Tantric massage can be very healing, especially for women who are not fully comfortable with their bodies or feel ashamed to express themselves. It offers a new, kind perspective on their own femininity and creates a space where they do not have to prove anything.

It is important that the pace of the massage is slow and sensitive, and that the woman can decide for herself what feels pleasant. For a first experience, a female masseuse is often more suitable – many women feel safer and more at ease. When trust arises between the client and the guide, the massage can become a truly deep journey toward self-acceptance.

Would you recommend a tantric massage after childbirth, and if so, why?

Definitely yes. After childbirth, a woman is often fully immersed in caring for her child and forgets about her own body. But feminine energy has not disappeared – it is just waiting to be invited back.

Tantric massage helps you relax, rest, and remember that you are not only a mother, but also a woman who has the right to feel beautiful, seen, and cherished. This return to yourself can have a significant impact on how you feel not only as a partner, but also as a mother.

Write us your questions at m.torstenova@tantramasaze.com.
Every question is the beginning of a journey toward greater understanding, closeness, and joy in yourself and with others.