Tantra and tantric massages are still surrounded in our world by prejudices with the flavor of forbidden fruit. And although sexual energy is inseparably connected to this ancient teaching, it is far from being a one-sided matter. What tantra truly consists of and why tantric massage is not a synonym for erotic massage was explained to us by Michaela Lynnette Torstenová, owner of a Prague salon.
I have personal and very pleasant experience with tantric massage. Years ago, I experienced it together with my partner in a Prague salon with an excellent reputation, and it must be said that it was an extraordinary, complex, and multi-layered experience. And although it is a matter of the distant past, from time to time I gladly return to it in my thoughts. I refreshed my memories of tantric massage through a pleasant conversation with Bc. Michaela Lynnette Torstenová, MBA, owner of the Tantra masáže Praha salon.
Tantric massage is still surrounded by myths, although the times have certainly progressed in this regard as well. Many people still imagine tantric massage as a “disguised” erotic massage and intimacies in a completely different spirit than tantra actually offers. Please tell us how you would briefly define tantric massage – what is its mission and on what foundation is it based?
True tantric massage is a unique and sophisticated ritual arising from tantric philosophy and approach; it is definitely not an erotic service with which it is often confused. Unfortunately, erotic masseuses and profit-driven entrepreneurs often misuse the word “tantra” as a marketing attraction, thereby creating a bad reputation for tantra. Tantric massage in its traditional understanding is much more than just a massage. Above all, it is a deep meeting of two people, filled with sensitivity, respect, and attention to the body and soul of the receiver. Although it has a predefined framework, each tantric massage is a unique ritual created between the receiver and the giver, depending on their mutual energy. The form therefore differs in details with respect to the personality of both the client and the masseuse. Tantric principles and the quality of massage techniques, however, always remain preserved. There is also space for trusting intuition and following the energy of the present moment, which are inseparable parts of every tantric massage.
In the massage, elements of tantric–Taoist techniques and classical massage are combined with a personal approach, sensitive attention, and deep knowledge of working with energy. Tantric massage is traditionally performed on a futon (mattress), by candlelight and to the sound of oriental music, in a calm and undisturbed environment.
Tantra massage includes various types of touch, from gentle to dynamic. Unlike other massages, tantric massage is holistic and therefore also includes massage of intimate areas. Its intention, however, is for the receiver to experience full acceptance of themselves. To become aware of their strength and the flow of energy throughout the entire body, not only in the pelvic area as we are usually accustomed to. During this massage, there is often a shift away from a utilitarian view of sexuality and an opening to a new, spontaneous experience of intimacy and arousal.
Usually, the discussion focuses on what tantra brings to the client. When we look at it from the other side – what does tantra give to the masseur or masseuse? How do they, for example, work with possible arousal and similar states – does this even belong here?
Tantric masseuses and masseurs go through a long journey during which they become therapeutic guides. It is necessary not only to penetrate deeply into tantric philosophy, but also to learn to work with the body, to know various massage techniques, and to master the art of conveying the tantric experience. Every tantric guide must know firsthand how tantra works with sexual energy and how to mediate these experiences to the client.
During the ritual, the masseuse becomes a guide who leads the client throughout the entire process. It is therefore important that she is connected and experiences the massage together with the client. This usually leads to feelings of arousal and tenderness, sometimes also a need for care. After the massage, the masseur or masseuse experiences joy and a sense of fulfillment when seeing a radiant and relaxed client. Last but not least, there is also a sense of meaningful work. Sometimes, however, it may also happen that the masseuse experiences unpleasant feelings – especially with clients who do not respect the boundaries of tantric massage and want, for example, sex. The masseuse then cannot focus on the massage and the client, but on maintaining the framework of the massage and her own boundaries. Such a tantric massage then satisfies neither the client nor the masseuse. Fortunately, there are already few clients with this kind of mindset.
Do tantric massages tend to be used more by women, men, or couples?
Tantric massage is still more popular among men, who often have more courage in this respect to enter something unknown. Women usually receive tantric massage as a gift from a partner or a friend, but there are also those who book it themselves. With growing awareness of tantra and stories from friends who have already tried this massage, the number of women is gradually increasing. The massage is also very popular among couples who want to share a bonding and inspiring experience that can bring renewal and inspiration – and often open mutual communication.
And finally – what, in your opinion, should definitely be mentioned when talking about tantra? What would you like to highlight and pass on to readers in this context?
Tantra is a wonderful and healing philosophy that is certainly worth trying. In order to have a beautiful and beneficial experience, however, it is necessary to choose a center where masseuses and masseurs undergo genuine tantric training. Tantric experiences cannot be gained over a weekend. It is a deep personal process that brings a new perspective on the world and opens further possibilities of experience, through which the masseur or masseuse then guides you. If you choose correctly, it is worth it. And from my heart, I wish you to experience such an amazing journey through tantra as the one I have gone through myself – and which led me to this work.
Thank you to Michaela Lynnette Torstenová from the Tantra masáže Praha salon for the pleasant interview
24 September 2021, 17:00
Author of the article: Lea Kotková
Source: zena-in.cz
Founder of Tantra masáže Praha s.r.o., psychotherapist, manager, lecturer of tantra and personal development groups, coach, yoga and holistic bodywork lecturer, massage therapist (10 years of practice), author of the "Inner wave" therapeutic tantric massage technique, massage lecturer.
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