Tantric Counseling

Tantra is an ancient philosophical path and a practical art of living in harmony. It offers a new, uncommon perspective in the West on relationships, sexuality, and partnership. Many relationships are shaped by stereotypes we carry from our families or society, often influenced by rigid rules. Tantra brings an approach closer to human nature – and perhaps that is why so many people are finding their way back to it today.

Our tantric counseling is intended for everyone seeking gentle and open inspiration for personal and intimate relationships. Questions about sexuality and the body are welcome. Your questions are answered by therapist and tantric massage teacher Bc. Michaela Lynnette Torstenová.

 
I would like to ask what can be recommended to couples where one partner has issues with touch and cuddling (doesn’t really like it), and the couple would like to work on it together? Can tantra help?
In every relationship, it is important to find balance. When one partner craves cuddling and the other tends to avoid touch, it can be frustrating for both. Touch is a natural language of closeness and for many people an essential part of emotional and physical connection.

A tantric massage can offer a space where touch is perceived as a gift – without pressure, expectations, or judgment. During a shared or individual course, partners learn to sense boundaries, needs, and the subtle signals of the other. Gradually, they can find a form of closeness that feels pleasant and safe for both.

 
My partner and I recently tried anal sex. He loved it, but for me, the whole experience was painful and unpleasant. He keeps convincing me to give it another chance, but I’m afraid. What should we do?
In such situations, it’s essential to trust your own feelings. If something feels painful or uncomfortable, it’s completely fine to say “no” – without guilt. The body needs time, safety, and respect.

If you are still curious about this area, you can approach it very slowly, gently, and ideally when you feel truly relaxed. Sensitive touch, massage, or breathwork can help. Tantric massage, which includes the so-called “new dimension massage,” can be a way to rediscover this area pleasantly and without fear. The key is that your partner remains patient and attuned to your pace.

 
I am 32 and have been married for six years. Recently, I’ve been desiring sex with another man. I’ve never been unfaithful to my husband. Should I find a lover?
Desire for another man doesn’t necessarily mean you want to leave your relationship. It may simply signal that something important is missing – perhaps attention, touch, excitement, or the feeling of being desired.

Instead of looking for a quick fix, try to see this desire as an invitation to talk with your partner. Perhaps you’re not seeing each other in the way you both need. A shared tantric massage can be a safe space where you can reconnect – differently, more deeply, more naturally. It allows you to express wishes that may never have been spoken. That might be the beginning of something new.

 
I’d like to ask how to best satisfy a woman and increase my partner’s desire for intimacy?
A woman’s arousal is often connected to feelings of safety, acceptance, and tenderness. When a woman feels comfortable in her body and knows that her partner truly sees her, her desire awakens naturally.

Many women need more time to tune in, so gentle touches during the day, soft gestures, listening, and attention without expectation can help. Every woman is unique – some prefer tenderness and gentleness, others enjoy playfulness and dynamic energy in lovemaking.

Tantric massage is a beautiful way to learn how to truly sense your partner, to let her guide you through her reactions, and to support her desire. You can gift her the experience or enjoy it together. Conscious touch opens the path not only to satisfaction but also to deeper intimacy.

 
My sister struggles with low self-esteem and often feels ashamed. Do you think a tantric massage could help her?
Tantric massage can be deeply healing, especially for women who are not fully at peace with their bodies or feel shy about expressing themselves. It offers them a new, compassionate view of their femininity and creates a space where nothing needs to be proven.

It’s important that the pace of the massage is slow and sensitive and that the woman can communicate what feels good to her. For a first experience, a female therapist is often more suitable – many women find this safer and more comfortable. When trust develops between the client and the guide, the massage can become a truly deep journey of self-acceptance.

 
Would you recommend a tantric massage after childbirth, and if so, why?
Absolutely. After giving birth, a woman is often completely immersed in caring for her baby and forgets about her own body. But her feminine energy hasn’t disappeared – it’s simply waiting to be invited back.

Tantric massage helps you relax, rest, and remember that you are not only a mother, but also a woman who has the right to feel beautiful, seen, and cherished. This gentle return to yourself can have a significant effect on how you feel, not only as a partner but also as a mother.

 
Send us your questions at m.torstenova@tantramasaze.com.
Every question is the beginning of a journey toward greater understanding, closeness, and joy, with yourself and with others.