Tantra and Tantric Massage in ELLE Magazine

An editor of ELLE magazine brings you, in cooperation with tantra.cz and the Tantra masáže Praha center, a report on the importance of conscious work with sexual energy for the quality of sexual life, as well as specific tips on how to develop and cultivate this energy. One of the methods of discovering one’s own sexual energy is also ritual Tantric massage, which helps to understand one’s own body and deepen the quality of sexual experience between partners.

Elle – Sexual Energy

Learn how to work with your sexual energy. Tantric practices can help you achieve deep orgasms as well as a higher-quality partnership.

When manager Alena discovered tantra with her partner years ago, her entire life reportedly changed. “Today I experience feelings I never even dreamed of. Everything is more intense and more real,” she says, adding that she is now able to experience long states of ecstasy and feels much closer to her partner. “It taught me to open up and not be afraid,” she explains.

Tantra itself is still shrouded in mystery. Many people imagine this ancient Indian teaching as merely the development of human sexual essence, but that is only a “side product.” Its main purpose is to develop personality and expand consciousness. According to tantra teacher Manguri, whose civil name is Petr Šindelář, the foundation is conscious experience. That means becoming aware of certain automatic processes, learning to control them, and experiencing them in a way we consider appropriate. With the help of tantra, a classic orgasm that lasts only a few seconds can be transformed into an ecstasy that floods the entire body for dozens of minutes.
“It happens that in these states I see colors and feel so much energy, as if I were a nuclear power plant,” Alena explains, adding that tantra, unlike conventional sex, is not limited to orgasm alone. “It is endless pleasure with no beginning and no end. It simply lasts. Orgasm frustrates many people. They know that after it, everything ends,” she states.

Closeness decides

Alena discovered her sexual energy exactly as tantra course lecturers and books advised her to do so – through openness. The foundation of tantra is being honest with oneself and with one’s partner. “It is not possible to have great sex without being honest with your partner,” Manguri explains. “From a tantric perspective, a quality partnership is seen as a bond in which you have no secrets from each other. You confide your feelings, problems, fears, and weaknesses. If you suppress them inside yourself, you will never truly meet each other,” the tantra teacher says.

Therefore, do not be afraid to tell your partner what bothers you, what you think about – even if it is attraction to other men. “Boundaries in this case are set so that you go only as far as not to unnecessarily hurt your partner,” adds Alena, who experienced this process herself. “If you want to experience something exceptional, you must fully surrender to your partner and completely expose yourself emotionally. It does make you more vulnerable, but also more truthful.”

In addition to the psyche, according to Alena, you will also learn to control your body. “Tantra is based on working with sexual energy, which we can consciously control using muscles throughout the body,” Manguri explains. For beginners, the most important muscles are those of the pelvic floor, which surround the genitals, where all sexual energy is born. These muscles should be trained. “The best way is to contract them one hundred and fifty times a day for two seconds and then release,” the tantra teacher says. The exercises can be done anywhere – in the car, in the office, at meetings, or during lunch.

“When you have a strengthened pelvic floor, you can guide energy from the genitals along the spine into the entire body – the legs, arms, neck, and head – and experience what is called a full-body orgasm,” Alena explains. According to Manguri, this teaches you not to waste energy unnecessarily and not to exhaust yourself excessively. First, however, we must accumulate the energy so that it does not dissipate unnecessarily. It is not appropriate to talk excessively or desire something constantly. “Things should be taken as they are – that everything happens as it should,” the teacher says. “When you let go of everything, you allow experiences to come to you on their own.”

The power of ritual

It is also good to create your own rituals with your partner that pay tribute to sexuality. “For us Europeans, they are somewhat difficult to understand – we grew up in a culture that considers Christian dignitaries living in celibacy to be the most enlightened people. But rituals are magical and effective,” Manguri says. In Indian temples, depictions of yoni and lingam (female and male genitals) are worshiped with flowers; in Europe, we can create our own ritual. “The basis is to create the right atmosphere and say what you want from it – to open yourself to love, to experience perfect orgasms, to make love for several hours, and so on,” he explains.

We should be careful that our wishes concern only ourselves or our partner. The partner can then agree in the sense of: “So be it,” or “I will do everything to make it happen.” Wishing something for someone else is not allowed. Each of us must decide for ourselves.” Alena herself would not give up tantric rituals either. “Once in a while, my partner and I let go of everything, set aside three hours just for ourselves, and devote ourselves to rituals. We honor my femininity and the energy I discovered thanks to tantra. Because of it, I understood what it truly means to be a woman,” she explains.

From massage to ecstasy

Sexual energy can also be explored through tantric massages, which are offered by several studios throughout the country (for example www.tantramasaze.com). When performed correctly, the massage touches not only the body but also the psyche. “Tantric massage is done with the intention of making us feel good, but the path to that can be painful – our tissues may carry memories of insensitive treatment, anger, and disappointment. Therefore, feelings of wanting to cry or scream may arise during such a massage. Experiencing these painful emotions helps release them and begin the process of closure and healing,” Manguri points out.

Using a whole system ranging from classical massage techniques, heating with hot towels soaked in aromatic oils, tickling with feathers, fur, and various techniques, the masseur can gradually induce feelings of calm, safety, and ultimately passion. For the brave, genital massage is also prepared at the end. According to tantra, the genitals, just like the palms or soles of the feet, are permeated with reflex points, and their massage influences the removal of individual blockages. Although this is a very intimate matter, it feels completely natural, and orgasm is merely a natural culmination of the entire ritual. “The best thing is to take a tantric massage course and then practice it at home,” Alena advises.

Sexual energy is also stimulated by tantra courses (a list can be found at www.tantra.cz), where you will learn basic principles, learn to meditate, and try various exercises. “A course is the easiest way to learn something about tantra and broaden your horizons,” the tantra teacher explains. “After that, it is up to each individual how much they expand their consciousness and how deeply they learn to work with their sexual energy.”