Tantra as the Art of Everyday Life

Tantra About Itself

Many people still perceive tantra as something elusive and otherworldly—something difficult to grasp or achieve. Some even confuse it with a religion or a sect focused on meditative sexual practices or group orgies. Yet these ideas reflect a deep misunderstanding of this ancient teaching that is thousands of years old.

Tantra is neither a religion nor a sexual cult. It is not distant or abstract. Those who have practical experience with tantra often say that it is a return to human nature—the naturalness we have partly forgotten under the influence of Christian dogma and puritanical upbringing.

Tantra is, above all, a way of life that unites spirituality and conscious being. It allows us to experience moments of enlightenment, bliss, and deep unity with ourselves, with the universe, and with everything around us. It helps us develop our personality to the point where we can overcome the tension and division of body, soul, and mind—and become complete human beings, even if only for a moment.

Why only for a moment? Because a person cannot permanently maintain this state of being. Tantra does not judge anything as good or bad; it teaches us to accept our perfection as it is. It offers everyone the possibility to explore the potential of the soul and to decide how far and how deeply they wish to walk the path of spiritual growth and open new dimensions of their being.

Tantric teaching enables us to consciously develop our abilities and move into higher levels of awareness. Through long-term practice and meditation, we can, alone or with a partner or group, experience profound personal growth. The best of these tantric experiences can then be brought back into daily life—making it fuller, more conscious, and more meaningful.

Everything in our lives is connected to spirituality—whether it’s meditation or building a career. Yet people tend to trust pain more than joy. We distrust our feelings, and therefore often doubt positive experiences. The ego perceives only the negative as “real.”

In our society, there remains a belief that the body is a source of sin, and so positive bodily experiences often surprise and confuse us. But pain is only one part of the wide spectrum of experience, not its only value. Denying deep emotional and sensual experiences leads to suffering, while allowing ourselves to feel fully creates true intimacy.

In the realm of emotions, there is no universal “right” or “wrong”—each of us feels according to our own truth. Therefore, we should not allow others to impose their ideas or dogmas upon us. Live by your own truth. Otherwise, you condemn yourself to a life that denies your instincts and feelings. Follow your joy.

 
Tantra for Everyday Life
How can we make tantra part of everyday reality?
How can one be a true tantrika—not just a weekend workshop visitor? The answer is simple: start. Your life is a combination of small and big choices that shape who you are. Tantra begins with a conscious step toward fully living each moment.

 
The Senses and Perception
Every week, take time to celebrate your senses.
The senses are gateways to our physical world—the Earth, the planet of creation. From diverse materials, humans create beautiful and functional things: homes, temples, clothing, music. That is divine creativity flowing through us.

Consider the miracle that love and lovemaking are not only sources of pleasure but of life itself. We are like small gods—we just often forget it. Tantra teaches that every act can become divine meditation—whether it’s building a rocket to Mars, singing an opera, washing a car, or changing a baby’s diaper.

 
The Breath of Life
In Sanskrit, breath is pranayama and life force prana.
Shallow breathing signals anxiety and fear. Deep, calm breathing brings us back to ourselves, awakens emotions, and supports health.

Develop your breath: practice yoga, swimming, or dance. Sit with your partner twice a day, look into each other’s eyes, and synchronize your breathing. In lovemaking, consciously guide your energy and let it flow through the whole body.

 
See Me
Sight is our dominant sense.
In our hurried times, it’s easy to forget to see.
Take time for flowers, sunrises, rain, and rainbows.

Look into people’s eyes. Observe the souls of those you meet. Smile—and watch how the world lights up.

 
Feel Me
Notice emotions within yourself and around you.
Ask, “How do you feel today?” Listen. Be there for others. It’s not about solving their problems but about showing care.

Also honor your own boundaries. Sharing is a path, not a duty.

 
Touch Me
Walk naked through your home.
Blindfold yourself and feel the textures around you—wood, stone, leather, fabric. Touch them with different parts of your body.

Sit back-to-back with your partner and sense the gentle movement of your spines. Or sit face-to-face, touch each other’s faces, hair, and skin, and rediscover one another.

 
Heal Me
Touch heals.
Massage releases toxins and strengthens relationships.
Giving a massage is an act of care, attention, and love—enriching not only for the receiver but also for the giver.

Tantric massage is a special kind of touch: a holistic ritual that embraces the whole body, including intimate areas. Awakening the kundalini energy opens deeper layers of being.

 
Kiss Me
Kissing is an intimate act that strengthens connection.
In tantra, it is recommended to kiss consciously and often—at least twice a day. Kissing is not only an expression of love but a meditation of breath, heart, and energy.

 
The Allure of Tastes
Food nourishes not only the body but also the senses.
Sharing meals, feeding one another, and savoring tastes together is an intimate ritual.

See food not merely as a source of calories—but as a celebration of life.

 
Honor Sound
Each morning, spend a few moments simply listening.
Hear the birds, the wind, the silence.

Once a week, give yourself an hour without artificial noise.
The most beautiful sound is the voice of your beloved.

 
Love Scents
Your body has its natural fragrance—honor it.
Strong perfumes often mask authenticity. Surround yourself with natural scents that bring you joy.

Let your partner “read” you with their nose—and do the same for them.

 
Meditation in Movement
Keep your body in motion.
Dance, yoga, swimming, hiking, running—all connect body, soul, and spirit.

The power of movement transforms into life force and vitality in love.
Make love with the energy of a rooster’s dawn.