Are you curious about what the lingam massage really means and how it relates to tantric massage? Let’s take a look together, with openness and a bit of inspiration from a well-known TV series.
The lingam massage is a significant and often discussed element of tantric massage. The interest in it is diverse – from professionals who study its effects on erectile dysfunction, to women who wish to bring more spark into their relationship, to those who mistakenly believe it is only a technique leading to orgasm.
Tantric massage in the world of television heroines
In one of the unforgettable episodes of Sex and the City, the main characters attend a seminar on intimate tantric lingam massage. During the seminar, they learn about techniques of conscious touch, prolonging pleasure, and the idea that sexuality can be a path to deeper connection with oneself and one’s partner.
The seminar teacher explains that the purpose of tantric sexuality is to connect with something greater than ourselves. In this way, tantra uses ecstasy as a bridge between body and mind, between matter and spirit. Unlike other approaches that use psychotropic substances, tantra works directly with the body – through breath, movement, massage, and sexuality.
To experience, not just to think
One of the greatest challenges for modern people is to stop living only “in the head” and to truly experience. The word “experience” itself means to live, to be in motion, to be alive. Tantric massage invites us to really feel our experiences, not just think about them.
In sexuality, this means letting go of prejudice, learned patterns, and fear of judgment. It’s not about reaching a goal, but about the journey itself.
Prolonging pleasure
The tantric lingam massage is not only about physical stimulation. It teaches conscious experiencing of pleasure, spreading it throughout the whole body, and deepening the connection with oneself. Breathing exercises and working with the pelvic floor can help to increase and prolong the intensity of pleasure.
Three dimensions of the lingam massage
Psychological: Tantric massage accepts the genitals as a natural part of the body, not as a taboo or isolated area.
Physical: The massage stimulates blood flow in the genital area, groin, and lower abdomen, which can support long-term health and erectile function.
Ritual: In tantric tradition, the lingam is seen as a symbol of life, creative energy, and connecting power. The massage is therefore also a form of honoring and awakening this energy.
The importance of slowness and conscious touch
Slow and fluid touch gives the body a sense of safety and allows for deeper relaxation. In tantric massage, the foundation is conscious touch that is not rushed or mechanical.
Orgasm as a pleasant but not necessary side effect
The goal of the lingam massage is not to achieve orgasm. It is about consciously experiencing arousal and pleasure without pressure or expectations. Orgasm may happen, but equally valuable is the inner pleasure that spreads throughout the body.
How to begin
The most suitable position for beginners is face-to-face, which supports eye contact and greater awareness of connection. An important part of the experience is not only the lingam massage itself, but also touch throughout the whole body, breathwork, and conscious guidance of energy.
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Founder of Tantra masáže Praha s.r.o., psychotherapist, manager, lecturer of tantra and personal development groups, coach, yoga and holistic bodywork lecturer, massage therapist (10 years of practice), author of the "Inner wave" therapeutic tantric massage technique, massage lecturer.
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